Not 100% sure on how I would use the information, but I need to learn about my partner more deeply. Like what is their life long dreams? If they have any, what’s holding them back?

There are more ways to get into the conversation like, what they wanted to do when they were younger, what motivates them at deeper level, what do they see themselves in 5 or 10 years, and what do the value like stability or service….

Same thing can be applied for multiple things like understanding their stress triggers, their core values, their love languages, their emotional needs, their passions and joys, and so on..

I want to understand deeply to ultimately support them in my own way. For their stress, if I understand what situations overwhelm them and how they get shut down, if there are any things that can alleviate those situations, and if there’s any patterns; I can try to do something helpful.

Intimacy comes from not fixing the problems but from knowing who they are. It’s to understand what they love, fear, and how they see the world. I think what I been missing is for people to be wanting to feel seen. Not someone fixing their problems. I realize, most people can solve their own problems. They just want to be seen.