Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it really means to be there for someone during fights…. not just physically, but emotionally. and not only that…. how do you make sure you are not there for others and also yourself…

I need to remember that. Especially when she’s hurting or overwhelmed and may come off rough… she’s on my team…. and I’m on hers…. I want her to feel that. To trust that no matter what, I’ve got her back. Even if I don’t have the perfect words…. It feels like when we fight… we aren’t and we take each other’s words roughly… This is because I don’t fully understand right away.

This is why it matters that I show up with empathy, not defense… I want to take her side more. I want her to feel safe with me. I want her to know that I’m with her, especially when life gets messy. Because that’s what love should feel like…

That’s the kind of partner I want to be….