I want to get better at relaying how I feel — clearly, but gently.

Sometimes I speak from a place of tension or confusion, and the words come out wrong. Today was an example of that…. it feels like I hurt her… I made her distant. It feels like what I said… They landed harder than I intended. I don’t want that. I don’t want my feelings to feel like attacks, or for my truth to cause her pain.

There’s a balance I’m still learning — between honesty and kindness. Between saying what I feel and choosing words that build connection instead of creating distance.

I want her to feel safe when I speak. Safe to hear me. Safe to respond. And I want to trust myself more in those moments — to be clear, but thoughtful. Real, but loving.

I’m working on it. Because she matters. And so does how I make her feel.