After today’s therapy session, I realized that I also am anxious. I also have to be understanding and patient…

One tool I can use is reframing, which I talked about before. I didn’t get in-depth on the application part of it. To reframe conflict as a signal rather than a threat is one of the most powerful shift I can make right now for this relationship. Doing this can transform anger from a weapon into a signal flare.

I have to first notice my reaction like, how is my body reaction and what story am I telling myself. Then I have to convert problem to information, for example, why are they doing this to what is this anger protecting or telling me? What do I need in this situation? These first two steps will then lead me to formulating curiosity instead of being defensive. This will help me translate the emotion into a need and help me respond and not react.

It all sounds so easy, but constantly telling myself this and practicing is required. Even in my daily work life, I should be constantly thinking and applying this…