It’s really hurtful sometimes and hard for me when you get very cold towards me and treat me differently because something bothers you.

Today, our eggs didn’t get cooked fast enough. Then you started acting cold and distant. When I asked what was wrong, you said you were stressed because of the eggs. Then I asked, explain more. Which then you told me, you want every food to get cooked and completed at the same time, otherwise, it stresses you out. You feel rushed and you don’t like the feeling of being rushed. I get it! Then I said “glad you aren’t in the military!” As a light gag. Which you got offended and told me. You telling me I’m weak?

I hope you understand that I didn’t mean that. But you know. While I get that you could’ve gotten offended, I wish I would’ve been told that in a different tone. It made it really difficult to have a conversation.

Then I replied with no, that’s not what I meant. Sorry. Then you started telling me how I was wrong and such. Honestly, at that point I just didn’t feel good. I said we should stop. Then you said we should stop and we took five minute break.

I’m upset here. But I want to bring it up in a nice way. This isn’t the first time something like this happens and I just apologize and move on. But I think this is a bad behavior and we should talk about it and work on it together. But at the same time. I don’t want to bring up the past. I’m focused on the present.

I have issue with being talked to like I did something wrong when I didn’t. I think it’s reasonable for me to say that you were pretty harsh and sensitive today and I wish you could talk to me in a kinder tone moving forward. I know you are kind and you don’t mean what you show. There may be other deep rooted issue we can find if we talk it out. If I do something wrong. I want you to let me know but I’m a supportive way where I can work on it.