I noticed I do a lot of routines and don’t really have rituals in my my partner’s and my relationship. Routines are about efficiency while rituals are about intention. Routines may get stuff done, but rituals have meaning. With rituals, you add presence, purpose, and emotion to something you already do.

Rituals are important because they slow us down just enough to feel instead of just function, soothe and builds trust, remind us that connection doesn’t take time out of our time, and create mental anchors in the day.

I know for breakfast, we drink coffee and watch the news. To make that into a ritual and not a routine, we can set a 5 minute timer to take a breath and talk about what we’re thankful about of each other and talk about what our intentions are for each other for the day will be. You can also apply that for the night and talk about what makes us feel connected and what do we want to leave behind before tomorrow…

I feel like I don’t do enough of this… Everything has turned into a routine and I think it’s time to reverse this.