Social awareness is something that I critically lack in my opinion… As I was reading emotional intelligence 2.0 book, I realize that I don’t really focus on what others say because I’m so stuck on myself…

I literally have to learn how to stop doing the things I love doing, which is talking, anticipating, assuming, and having monologues. When I have conversations with others, I always try to think about what they are talking about, what they will say next, what they are missing, what they may be misinterpreting, and so much more! It’s very hard to not do that, but I think it really is important to, so that I can watch and observe with 100% focus and intention to absorb other’s output.

It seems that I tend to do this quite a bit at work… It feels like people aren’t getting things done fast enough or doing it wrong and ineffective. I feel like I can do it better… But I’m doing all this without understanding the reasons why the person chose a specific way and what that person is feeling, I tend to just take over and give “my” effective solutions to fix the problem. This comes from my own frustration and not theirs. This is because a project involves many people and I don’t want to waste anyone’s time nor do I have the time… But just because I don’t have the time, doesn’t mean I should rush and handle the situation wrong….Just because others are there, doesn’t mean they feel the same way….

I really do need to work on my social awareness, so that I can implement social management skills better to be more effective at work…..

Understanding others will help me be better in the long run by choosing a solution that makes everyone comfortable and the most effective. If I push my own solutions to others who don’t know a lot about it, it may just end up being my own project that I have to finish and lead instead of team’s project. The time may even get pushed to the right even more! and I wouldn’t want that for everyone….

I realize, I got a lot to work on…. Not only for my employees… but for my lover… my partner in life….

I should work on coming up with solutions together…. I should work on listening to her and understand where she is coming from better…… No more assuming… no more predicting… no more thinking about when I can say what and what I can say….. and so on….. It’s time to listen and understand….. by putting all these bad habits aside!